5 Tips to Empower Yourself to Not Lose Hope in Allah (SWT) Mercy

I will leave you with these five tips on how to empower yourself to not lose hope in Allah (SWT) mercy: 

  1. Parent yourself

    1. Hold yourself accountable and take away certain privileges from yourself. We do so well when we parent our children but forget that we as adults need to parent ourselves as well. 

    2. Umar Ibn al-Khattab [ra] said: “Hold yourself accountable before you are held accountable and weigh your deeds before they are weighed for you.”

  2. Actively take part in Self Reflection 

    1. We often take self reflection for granted. We self sabotage more than reflect and improve. If you develop a habit to reflect often, you are more likely to understand what are your triggers and help others understand you more. 

    2. One of Ibn Atta’s words of wisdom is reflection. His wisdom says, “Bury yourself in the land of anonymity. A seed that is never buried underground will never produce. There is nothing more beneficial to the heart than an isolation that allows it to enter a state of reflection.”

  3. Constantly seek closeness to Allah (SWT) by seeking more islamic knowledge and reading the Quran religiously.

    1. In the book a Cup of Mint Tea (Volume One- Story Two) in about the story of Saeed Bin Al-Musayyib and how his journey of living by the quran allowed him to become a master scholar and the most knowledgeable in the matters on halal and haram and a scholar of the Prophet’s (PBUH)’s companions. 

    2. Actively seeking closeness to Allah (SWT) will allow us to have the connection with Allah strong and clear. 

  4. Surround yourself with friends who share the same values and are constantly reminding and pushing you to get closer to Allah (SWT)

    1. Prophet Musa(AS) asked Allah (SWT) to send with him his brother on his journey. 

    2. Let’s take a look at the qualities that Musa (AS) has recommended for a close companion:

“Increase, through him, my strength”

The first thing that we should look for in a friend is that they should make us stronger human beings. They should be someone that we trust will help us when we are at our low points and that we won’t feel self-conscious with when seeking help. 

“And let him share my task”

Next, Musa (as) asks that he be granted a companion so that he can “share in his task.” Often times we try to go through life alone and we try to do everything on our own. In another extreme, we may try to get our friends to take our own life decisions and lay our tasks fully on their shoulders.Through this description, we get the true essence of what we should do. Our friends should be people that are capable and willing to share in our tasks. They should be people we can trust to bounce ideas off of and to help us along the way. We shouldn’t try to wander through life and carry the entire burden ourselves,nor should we lay our tasks fully on other’s shoulders—the moderate path is the key.

5. Learn how to make sincere Duaa and repent. 

  1. Make sure when you make duaa, the heart is present and you are in full concentration 

  2. Try to make duaa during the times the heavens are open (the last ⅓ of the night, in sujood, between iqama and athan, etc)

  3. Come to Allah with a soft heart, one that is broken and humble, full of humility and softness

  4. Try to face the qiblah 

  5. Be in a state of wudu 

  6. Raise your hands to Allah (SWT) in urgency 

  7. Start the dua by praising Allah (SWT)

  8. Follow with a salutation to the prophet Muhammed (PBUH) 

  9. And proceed the duaa with repentance and seeking forgiveness for past sins. 

  10. End the dua with prays again upon the Prophet (PBUH) 

  11. Follow the dua by giving some charity. 

  12. And finally having a consistent presence with Allah, and being persistent in asking Him. 



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